One thing I noticed that was different between Graves and menopause was that sometimes I'd be lying in bed and, while my feet tend to get cold when I'm lying down, they'd sometimes feel like they were burning up. That was from Graves'. On the other hand, when I felt heat that radiated from my head, that was from Menopause.
To answer your other questions…
When I was originally diagnosed hyperthyroid, I was already taking 25 mg of metoprolol twice a day. I wasn't really having a lot of heart palpitations - maybe because I was already on medication. I had actually gone to see the doctor for a new prescription of my BP med and while I was there, asked about my tremors. When she got my lab results back, she doubled my dosage to 50 mg twice a day and said it would help with the tremors until I could get in to see an endo. I've been on a few different BP meds over the years. I'm currently taking Verapamil. (I was prescribed it years ago by a neurologist, and I asked to try it again hoping it would help with both my headaches and my BP. It hasn't helped my headaches, though).
I've never actually had my antibodies tested. I was diagnosed based my uptake & scan and my labs. I had all the classic symptoms, including some eyelid retraction, so it was pretty obvious that my hyperthyroidism was due to Graves'.
My symptoms got better pretty quickly on methimazole, except for some fatigue that has never quite gone away (and may be due to other health issues or even my BP medication). Even so, other than the first year, which was a roller coaster in which I was actually hypO for several months, I've only had one normal TSH test in over four years. The rest of the time, my TSH has been suppressed, even when my T4 and T3 are normal. Before my TT, my endo wasn't concerned. Now that I no longer have a thyroid, she's more focused on my TSH and she keeps lowering my levothyroxine dose to try to get it in range. After five reductions, I still have a long way to go.* I feel pretty good most of the time, but I've had some eye issues, so I'm eager to get my TSH back where it should be in hopes of nipping the TED in the bud.
* My latest labs: TSH 0.090 (normal 0.45-4.50), T4 1.50 (normal 0.80-1.70), T3 2.6 (normal 2.0-4.8). In this test, my TSH was actually down, and my T4 was actually up from my previous test. And this is with a reduction in my levo.
Edited emmtee (April 6, 2018 02:26:13)